How to stem the tide?

Just as it did in 2016, Democrats are "going to have to do some soul searching" to understand why their candidate lost to someone who none in their party thought should be electable; but he was - elected.  

In the 16 hours since the presidential race was called for Donald Trump by the AP, major print media platforms have generated page after page of analysis, reflection and recrimination. And just like 8 years ago, there's an almost unanimous call to fundamentally rethink the Democratic party's messaging and policy priorities; but the party is no more likely to turn back the tide of disillusion that is now so clearly sweeping the country than it was then. 

Was is Biden's fault for seeking a second term? Was it the shortness of Harris' campaign? Or the tactical errors in favoring the "ground game" over social and digital media?  The answer certainly includes "all of the above".  Yet that seems to ignore the larger question: how is it that Trump's messaging resonated with more voters than Harris' ?  

The answer it seems to me stems from the increasing isolation of the governing class, particularly on the left,  from the concerns of everyday people.  Is it right to care more about middle class transgender rights than the struggles with poverty in rural communities, even though they are white.  The notion of "white privilege" doesn't sit well with (white) voters in rural communities who are also living paycheck to paycheck. 

Decades ago, the Democrats were the party of the working (in the US 'middle') class while the Republicans were the party of business.  But that's changed.  Now the Republicans claim to speak for the working stiff, while while Democrats spend their time in identitarian classification.  What they have overlooked to their cost is just as now all white people are racist and reactionary, not all people of color are progressives. 

I was stuck by this the cartoon from the Washington Post. The one thing that might help is missing from the suggested "coping mechanisms" - Listening to those you think you  disagree with.  It's something we all need to do more if but most of all its something the political class need to start doing.  Without becoming more responsive to people's everyday concerns the tide will not turn.